What to do when someone Dies: Guide!
Dealing with death is never easy whether it is some one close to you or someone you only knew in a casual manner. We are talking not only in terms of emotional stress but also in terms of dealing with the practical aspects. We know it sounds a tad calculated, but having a list of things that needs to be taken care off, will make things easier on you and everyone around. Plus you will find that having a certain set of things to do in a systematic manner will ease the grief to a large extent.
What to do when someone Dies: Checklist
- Call a doctor and the closest relatives: If you feel that someone is on the verge of dying the sensible thing to do is call help. Even if you believe they are beyond help, you need to call a doctor to confirm that. Plus call the closest relatives to keep them in the loop. While you are waiting for people to come, try not to get stressed. Sometimes the shock my leave you reeling and you need to alleviate this by calmly noting down things. In case you keep the body at home then you may seek the help of a nurse or doctor. You also need to consider what the person who has passed away would have wanted.
- Take care of the mundane details: You need to understand that though the person has passed away, practical things like taking care of pets, cancelling milk and newspaper supply and other such details need to be handled. Do prepare a checklist to ensure that these things are taken care of on time.
- Share the work with close ones: You should talk to people who are close to the diseased and share the burden of grief as well as the numerous tasks that are involved. Plus someone else helping you with the decisions will really help relieve the stress and overall feeling of being overwhelmed.
- Inform the other people who are close to the diseased: Make sure that you do keep everyone who falls in the circle of friends and family of diseased are informed of the death. Be gentle but clear about the message. Seek their help in informing others in the circle so that you may ease out your work. If the person is employed, you need to call up the employers about this. Also try and contact the person who is handling the business end of things for the diseased. You also need to start the process for registering the death.
- Organizing the final journey: This would be in the form of a funeral and would have to be done around what the diseased would have wanted. This again is a matter of personal beliefs and preferences and also sometimes influenced by religious beliefs. Sorting and organizing this could be a bigger undertaking than you originally thought. Do not hesitate to seek help and counsel from others.
Deal with the practicalities of the actual funeral: Whether you like it or not you have to consider the expense and efforts involved in arranging the funeral, which can be pretty substantial. To this end you need to get quotations from various funeral homes and consider all the aspects of it before finalizing one. You need to check on what the diseased wished for in terms of funeral and also whether he/she has made any provisions for it. If in case no provisions are made you need to check what the cost will be and whether you will be able to pay for it
- Look for the paperwork: You also need to see the kind of will the diseased has prepared and left as this too will have an impact on the way things are to be organized. Whether you like it or not, the question of what is available and who gets what needs to be dealt with.
- Informing all organizations: You will also have to inform all the organizations like banks, hospitals and other institutions about the death and deal with the paperwork from that side. Steps will have to be taken to make sure that no misuse of things occurs and things are carried out practically.
- Close all utilities and settle accounts: This may need you to seek extra help from others in case the diseased did not leave things in a healthy financial position. But make sure that you check everything out and settle things so that there is closure.
Seek help if required with the grieving process: Once you have dealt with all the practical aspects of a person’s death, it is natural to feel the burden of grief descending on you. Do not try and fight it as grieving over the loss of someone is a natural process. If you feel that you need professional help in this regard, do talk to counselor.